In Dr. James Dobson's Nationally syndicated Column Date January 7, 2001  pmi-notes that:

1. Dr. Dobson wrote as a Psychologist promoting the non-Christian concept of  "tough love" through confrontation, while to the christians in this same audience Dr. Dobson NEVER quotes God's Word on the subject of  how the Christian Community is to address these problems through Church Discipline among believers.  In effect sending Christians to non-christians for help.  Later in a letter to PMI you will see Dr. Dobson and Focus On The Family practices deception toward their readers.

2. Secondly, Dr. Dobson promotes both a secular process and secular organizations and NEVER invites the reader to Christ the only healer, redeemer, and reconciler, etc. to address the underlying sinful heart. "If anybody is preaching to you a gospel other than what you accepted, let him be eternally condemned!  Am I now trying to win the approval of men, or of God?"  Galatians 1:9

3. Thirdly, Dr. Dobson promotes the world's corruption of Matthew 18:15-35 "Church Discipline" to address (without Christ) the problem-among them the sin of denial. Personally, Dr. Dobson-for himself, and for many years, stubbornly rejects God's plan of believer confronting believer in Church Discipline.  see Dr. Dobson's rejection of Church Discipline

4. Alcoholics Anonymous began as a corruption of God's Word so that it would be more acceptable and popular by removing Christ Jesus.  Seems like Dr. Dobson is removing Christ as well to becoming a man pleaser-Galatians 1.

5. Fourth Dr. Dobson suggests children can go for help without their parents knowing--isn't this the same principle he opposes about teens getting abortions without their parents knowledge?

6. Dr. Dobson sends his readers, in need of Christ's help to a secular organization and NOT God's body Christ's Church, where they can get everlasting help and life.

God Word says to leave false teachers like Dr. Dobson alone and stop supporting Dr. James Dobson and Focus On The Family until they fall and repent...just like Dr. Dobson says should be done to alcoholics in this article.

Supporting Material:
1. Dr. Dobson's Article:Alcoholic Must Be Confronted in Spirit of Tough Love
2. Dr. Dobson's reply to explain Focus On The Family's reasoning and actions and PeaceMakers reply to Dr. Dobson
3. 1 Corinthians 2-Why non-believers can't be helped
4. Dr. Dobson preaches a false gospel and acts as a man pleaser: Galatians 1
5. How Dr. Dobson and Focus On The Family "knows" when God is blessing them.

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 Dr. Dobson wrote:

"Q. My husband drinks excessively.  Aside from getting help for my family, what should I do specifically for him?  How on earth am I going to get him to go to Alcoholics Anonymous or some similar treatment program?  He is deep in denial, and I'm not even sure he's thinking right now.  He couldn't make a rational decision to save his life.  How am I going to get him to cooperate?"

A: You're right about the difficulties you face. Begging won't accomplish anything, your husband could be dead before he admits he has a problem. Indeed, thousands die each year while denying that alcoholics.

That's why Al-Anon teaches family members to confront with love. They learn how to remove the support systems that prop up the disease and permit it to thrive.  They are shown how and when to impose ultimatums that force the alcoholic to admit his or her need for help. And sometimes they recommend separation until the victim is so miserable that his or her denial will no longer hold up. In essence, Al-Anon teaches its own version of the love-must be-tough philosophy to family members who must implement it.

I asked Bob, a recovered alcoholic, if he was forced to attend Alcoholics Anonymous, the program that put him on the road to
recovery. He said:

    "Let me put it this way. No one goes to AA  just because nothing better to do that evening. Everyone there has been forced to attend initially.  You just don't say "On Monday night we watched a football game and on Tuesday we went to the movies. So what will we do on Wednesday? How about going over to an AA meeting?' It doesn't work that way. Yes, I was forced--forced by my own misery. Pauline allowed me to be miserable for my own good. It was loving duress that moved
me to attend."

Though it may sound easy to achieve, the loving confrontation that brought Bob to his senses was a delicate maneuver. I must reemphasize that families should not attempt to implement it on their own initiative. Without the training and assistance of professional support groups, the encounter could degenerate into a hateful, vindictive, name-calling battle that would serve only to solidify the drinker's position.

Al-Anon Family Groups and Alcoholics Anonymous are both listed in local phone books.  Also to be found there is a number of the Council on Alcoholism, which can provide further guidance. For teenagers of an alcoholic parent there is Alateen. Teens can go there and share without their parents' permission or knowledge, and its free."

Everyone who support Dr. Dobson and Focus On The Family with money, gifts, verbal and non-verbal support contribute to his willful sinning and the destruction of those who do not know better...May God have mercy on their souls...

This letter is from the Office of Dr. James Dobson,
President of Focus On The Family.
 

Dear Mr. Fields,

Mr. Peter Tyrrell of Focus on the Family Australia has forwarded your recent e-mail message to our headquarters here in Colorado Springs.  We welcome the honesty of your reaction to the January 7 installment of Dr. Dobson's syndicated column, "Dr. Dobson Answers Your Questions" ("Alcoholic Must Be Confronted in Spirit of Tough Love").  I'm happy to have this opportunity to respond to your concerns on behalf of the entire Focus organization.

We were sorry to learn that you were so disappointed with the advice Dr. Dobson offered in this article

[PMI: my "disappointment" is no of consequence-the question is, is God satisfied. Christians must offer God's Word-not personal opinion-advice-human wisdom].

If you will permit me to make a personal observation, I'd suggest that your dissatisfaction with his recommendations may simply reflect a fundamental difference in philosophical perspective between the two of you

[PMI: Again, it's not my dissatisfaction that's important-but God's.  It's Biblical-Christ's teachings vs. man's corrupt wisdom-philosophy offered by Dr. Dobson, I think you call it secular humanism].

You, for example, appear to assume that no course of action, no method of treatment, should be recommended unless it is backed up and buttressed with explicit scriptural quotations

[PMI: YES that's correct, which is why, as a former referral therapist for Dr. Dobson & FOTF-as well as a peacemaker in two disputes with Dr. Dobson, I know first hand Dr. Dobson's rejection, in his personal and corporate life, toward Biblical correction.]

Dr. Dobson, on the other hand, takes the view that non-Christian readers (the audience he's trying to reach with his syndicated column) will respond more readily to biblical truths and principles (for instance, the idea of "tough love") if we present them in a straightforward, unadorned manner, dispensing with chapter-and-verse citations  Go back

[PMI: First Dr. Dobson personally and corporately rejects Church Discipline God's original "tough love" Matthew 18..whose hypocrisy shames God's glory.

Second 1 Corinthians 5 addresses what, how, when etc. to speak-judge those within the Church and leave to God those outside the Church.

Third, Is it possible I understand you saying the Holy Spirit can do a better job with the non-Christian reader if the non-Christian doesn't know it's "God's Word" and from the Holy Bible?.

Fourth, this is a direct violation of 1 Corinthians 2 (see chapter below) and the work of God's Holy Spirit that opens their heart and mind, not our human choices & wisdom.

Fifth Dr. Dobson does not give God the glory "for what he thinks is Biblical advice" but takes it upon himself].

You also seem to have strong objections to "secular" organizations like Alcoholics Anonymous

[PMI: YES-that's correct, secular vs. Christ's True Church.  Possibly you did not know that AA was originally designed on Biblical principles and was corrupted to be attractive the mankind which leads to all manner of spiritual deceit-who teach any god one might chose as a higher power-is as unGodly as possible.

If God chooses to use Satan for HIS Work HE can use whatever HE WILLS-but that does not give Christians freedom to promote/use them, Romans 5:18-6:2].

 Dr. Dobson, however, feels that it is not only permissible but often advisable to take advantage of the skills of healing professionals *doctors, dentists, recovery therapists, etc. * wherever we can find them, whether inside or outside the Christian community.  In his opinion, the value of technical expertise is not necessarily dependent upon the practitioner's spiritual condition

[PMI: First, this is non-Christians blindness leading the blind into hell, (2 Thessalonians 2).

Second Dr. Dobson & Focus On The Family confuses speaking of world-flesh vs. Spiritual-God's kingdom.

Third when a person's pain is lightened by worldly means, this is inoculating the non-believer against Satan's work (1 Corinthians 5: 1-13), which blinds them to The Holy Spirit's work of driving them to Christ.  Dr Dobson called this work of the Holy Spirit a Satanic ritual, in public court, rejecting the work of the Holy Spirit.

As for your suggestion that Dr. Dobson contradicts the principle of parental consent when he recommends Alateen as a place where teenage children of alcoholics can go and "share without their parents' permission and knowledge," we would respond that the circumstances in view here are entirely different from those normally associated with teen abortions.  In the latter case, a child hides something from her parents that they have a right and a responsibility to know * the fact that their daughter is
pregnant and has elected to undergo a potentially dangerous procedure in order to terminate the life of her baby (their grandchild).  In the former, she conceals only thoughts and feelings that she cannot share with her parents anyway:  thoughts and feelings about the agony of living with an alcoholic mother or father * thoughts and feelings that could hurt and cause
damage unnecessarily if they were disclosed within the context of the family.

[PMI: Christ is the HEAD of HIS Church and the Church is the steward of Christ's authority in the Christian's life, and the Husband is the head of his wife and children as Christ is of HIS Body.  Ephesians 4-6, therefore should the husband/dad fail his responsibility the family should go to the Church for help-Matthew 18, and listen to the leaders Hebrews 13.

You do not distinguish Dr. Dobson's "advice" as different for Christians where God's Word is sovereign, and "uses God's Word" with the non-Christian who can not understand it, since they're not of God's Spirit-you lead them all astray of God.you have their blood on your head.

Also, it may be a semantical error but all children are never "owned-possessed" as "their" grandchild but are God's in our stewardhip to raise as HE wants.

Christ's own words in Matthew in rebuking the Pharisees who look clean on the outside while filthy (thoughts, and heart issues) on the inside, teaches that all elements of our personhood is subject to using God's Word and Way in bringing God's healing and peace versus man's peace-which leads to eternal destruction. Matthew 23]

I hope this response has given you a clearer understanding of Dr. Dobson's perspective.

[PMI: I believe you have given me a clear presentation of Dr. Dobson's perspective and I pray you now have a clear understanding of God's perspective]

Thanks again for taking the time to write, Mr. Fields.  Don't hesitate to let us know if we can offer any further explanation.  God bless you.

Sincerely,

Timothy Masters
Office of the President
TM/

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[1Corinthians 2:1-16]
"And I, brethren, when I came to you, came not with excellency of speech or of wisdom, declaring unto you the testimony of God.  For I determined not to know any thing among you, save Jesus Christ, and him crucified.  And I was with you in weakness, and in fear, and in much trembling. And my speech and my preaching {was} not with enticing words of man's
wisdom, but in demonstration of the spirit and of power:  That your faith should not stand in the wisdom of men, but in the power of God.  Howbeit we speak wisdom among them that are perfect: yet not the wisdom of this world, nor of the princes of this world, that come to nought:  But we speak the wisdom of God in a mystery, {even} the hidden {wisdom}, which God ordained before the world unto our glory:  Which none of the princes of this world knew: for had they known {it}, they
would not have crucified the Lord of glory.  But as it is written, Eye hath not seen, nor ear heard, neither have entered into the heart of man, the things which God hath prepared for them that love him. But God hath revealed {them} unto us by his Spirit: for the Spirit searcheth all things, yea, the deep things of God.  For what man knoweth the things of a man, save the spirit of man which is in him? even so the things of God knoweth no man, but the Spirit of God.  Now we have received, not the spirit of the world, but the spirit which is of God; that we might know the things that are freely given to us of God. Which things also we speak, not in the words which man's wisdom teacheth, but which the Holy Ghost teacheth; comparing spiritual things with
spiritual.  But the natural man receiveth not the things of the Spirit of God: for they are foolishness unto him: neither can he know {them}, because they are spiritually discerned.   But he that is spiritual judgeth all things, yet he himself is judged of no
man.   For who hath known the mind of the Lord, that he may instruct him? But we have the mind of Christ."
[1Corinthians 2:1-16]

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Galatians 1:8-12

 Paul, an apostle - sent not from men nor by man, but by Jesus Christ and God the Father, who raised him from the dead -
 and all the brothers with me, To the churches in Galatia:  Grace and peace to you from God our Father and the Lord Jesus Christ, who gave himself for our sins to rescue us from the present evil age, according to the will of our God and Father,
 to whom be glory for ever and ever. Amen.

 I am astonished that you are so quickly deserting the one who called you by the grace of Christ and are turning to a different gospel which is really no gospel at all. Evidently some people are throwing you into confusion and are trying to pervert the gospel of Christ.  But even if we or an angel from heaven should preach a gospel other than the one we preached to you, let him be eternally condemned! As we have already said, so now I say again: If anybody is preaching to you a gospel other than what you accepted, let him be eternally condemned!  Am I now trying to win the approval of men, or of God? Or am I trying to please men? If I were still trying to please men, I would not be a servant of Christ. I want you to know, brothers, that the gospel I preached is not something that man made up.  I did not receive it from any man, nor was I taught it; rather, I received it by revelation from Jesus Christ."

Galatians 1:8-12    Go back

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From Focus On The Family's Principles of fund Raising...
        http://www.family.org/donate/pinfo/A0000671.html

        "2. The Lord has apparently chosen to place His mantle of approval on the ministry of Focus on the Family.                     Nevertheless,  He gives and sometimes takes away. If He ever closes the doors to this work, we will accept His leadings and yield the outcome to Him. Until then, we will devote every ounce of energy to the task at hand.

        3. One of the ways we can discern the Lord's will regarding the continuation of our work is through the support He sends (or doesn't send) from His people. Therefore, during lean times we will make our obligations known to our friends — but we will not squirm, scratch or claw for contributions. We will never resort to what we consider to be disrespectful and dishonorable methods of fund-raising, even when the needs are serious."

PMI: God's Word says the basis for judging God's blessings is based upon living faithfully to all Christ is and teaches NOT on ones bank account (which is another worldly mind set that FOTF practices).   Go back

WE continue to pray and seek God's peace with Dr. James Dobson and Focus On The Family, praying for their repentance and return to Christ Jesus...they continue to reject God's Biblical process... Go back

Go back Thou Shalt NOT Bare False Witness Against Thy Neighbor
The DOOR: Fracas In The Family - Part One
The DOOR: Who You Gonna Call? PeaceMakers - Part Two
Interview: James Dobson's War On America
More Witnesses Dobson refuses Biblical reconciliaton
Dr. James Dobson leads others astray-
           Biblical Rebuke of Ken Sande and Peacemaker Ministries